Monday, January 8, 2018

Imran’s Third Marriage – a Single Woman’s Perspective

I really don’t follow Pakistani politics anymore simply because I feel that if you watch the news even after a year the news itself doesn’t really change much. My theory is if something earth shattering happens somebody will come and tell you about it.  After all spreading news is the nation’s favorite pastime. Everyday someone or the other asks me “did you hear what happened” my reply is always a negative and then the person proceeds to narrate the entire news. I keep abreast without wasting my own time. I have become immune to dharnas, corruption, power struggles etc. But once in a while I hear something that does affect me and the latest saga of Imran’s new tryst with marriage is one such news.

First of all as a woman I absolutely detest the attitude of the politicians who say ‘ he is allowed 4 wives’ or ‘it is his personal matter’ or ‘it is natural for everyone to need companionship’ . I know most of you will find it politically incorrect and probably shocking when I say ‘bull….’! I’m sorry but I cant respect someone who in their 60’s finds it impossible to remain single and takes impulsive decisions regarding marriage. Remember the 2nd marriage? The rush to get married and the quickness of the divorce? If he cant keep himself in check how can he keep the control the nation? Nothing is personal when you enter politics. It is our right to scrutinize you and base our decisions upon all your actions.

And what is this business of needing someone? Its not as if he doesn’t have children, or he lives all alone in a big house with no one around. Mr. Khan I am a single woman who is completely alone in the world and I am living just fine. If I can do it you definitely can. I want to vote for someone who is strong not just honest. Yes I agree the others are corrupt so we should give him a chance and most do believe that he is the honest leader we need. But am I wrong if I want strength along with honesty?

I am not against marriage at all on the contrary I think it is the building block of any society. What I’m against is the ridiculous manner in which IK seems to be approaching this for the past few years. If you find the right woman, take your time, understand the person then if you are sure go ahead by all means. But you seem to be still going through school boy crushes. Let me share a secret of growing up … we all fantasize but growing up is learning to keep our fantasies to ourselves.

What on earth is the matter with everyone? People are either criticizing his choice or condoning his decision as a ‘personal matter’. Why isn’t anyone asking ‘why’? Let me ask you if a female politician who was divorced or widowed decided to get married at the age of 66 what would your reaction be? Such complete hypocrisy. The entire nation would have assassinated her character and termed her unfit for politics. None of these politicians would have said ‘its her personal choice’. I don’t think I will see this society change in my lifetime but I would like us to at least start accepting openly that we are in drastic need of changing our attitudes.  At the moment I feel as an independant woman I am not represented by anyone and this time again I will simply waste my vote.

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